Spring Spiritual Cleaning- The Eulogy

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I probably won’t be adding may pictures or “fluff stuff” to this post because in all reality, it is about my Spiritual growth and journey for the month of April. If you can believe it, I haven’t gone to the gym more than 2 or 3 times this month because I have been putting more into the growth within than the external growth with weights. Now, that being said, I still have been doing my deep breathing exercises, yoga at home, nature walks, and meditation.

I have been learning a lot about myself. I was advised one of the best things that we can do is to write our our eulogy. In doing so, we can almost see the legacy that we will leave behind. Initially I had no idea where to start with writing my own eulogy. It was with the help of a blog I found Art of Manliness, yeah, this is obviously a blog directed at men but, what the hey! I didn’t see any, “No Girls Allowed!” signs hung anywhere and if it helps me get to the next spiritual stone I’m trying to get to, so be it!

Writing the Eulogy really did get me thinking about those things we sometimes think about, sometimes we forget about. I began to think about the people who came into and influenced me in my life. The lessons I learned. The dreams I had, ones I achieved and ones I grew out of when I realized I didn’t want them anymore.  

It’s a great exercise to do. It will help you to reevaluate the life you have lived thus far, and maybe help guide you in what you would like to accomplish, or what relationships you’d like to repair since you have the opportunity right now. For some this exercise will be easier than for others. For me, I found some parts were very difficult. Regardless, I’m glad I did it.

 

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Who am I? Am I “good enough”? How to be happy and successful!

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As people, and I will speak for myself when I say, as a woman, mother, and wife, we seem to constantly ask ourselves , Who am i?” We come to the short conclusion, “I am a mother, a wife, an actress, a teacher, a writer, a volunteer..etc. After we have strapped that label onto ourselves, we find ourselves asking, “Am I good enough?

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When I was a young girl I knew who I was in terms of sports and academics. I knew what I liked and never really thought about the next day because it was either school/chores/and homework or it was chores and free time..as long as I was out of the house and home before dark when I saw the porch light on, it was all good.I knew who I was and knew if I was good enough.

Then became adulthood, parenthood, and an area very much unknown to me. I began doubting who I was, where I was going, if I was good enough, if I would ever be good enough, if I could ever DO enough. I know I am not alone out there with this.

I lost touch of my friends. Forgot what my hobbies were and I placed my family before myself every time. I have no idea why I would do that. I thought it was what I was supposed to do. Put them before me. But then I began listening to others. A spark ignited…I did all this, put them before me because I thought I didn’t deserve to be loved or that I wouldn’t be loved if I did put me first. Let me take a step back, when you have babies, yes, I still believe mine would come before me. But my kids are teens and young adults now. And now, I need to focus on me more as they focus on themselves and their independence and growth.

What it comes down to is that you need to happy first before you will be able to “be enough” for anyone else” or to “be good enough”. Happiness is where it all begins!

So how do you make yourself happy? Shawn Anchor the CEO of Good Think, Inc. has some great ideas based on research The Happy Secret will have you smiling and will tell you what you can do by creating new habits. They say it takes 21 days to build a new habit..write 3 things you are grateful for each day, journal about a happy experience you had that day..RELIVE it, exercise, meditation, and I would add eat healthy because what you eat really does impact your energy levels and how your brain functions too.

I strongly believe that you do need to be happy first..your success falls in after being happy and therefore you will feel that you are “good enough” and as long as you’re happy when someone asks “who are you?” if you can start off with “I am happy, or happily” you are sure to be on the right track! 

By being happy you attract happy people, it’s easier to change your perception of stressful situations to simply challenges.

So, here’s to you and your happiness and success!